The Importance of Good Self Esteem

by | Oct 19, 2023 | Mental Health

Self Esteem Help

Self-esteem is the degree to which we value and believe in ourselves, and is important aspect of our mental health and well-being. Having healthy self-esteem allows us to have confidence in our abilities, form positive relationships, and take on new challenges. Despite how crucial self-esteem is to our mental health and well-being, many people struggle with low self-esteem, which can impact their daily lives and overall well-being. In this blog post, we will discuss ways to build self-esteem and subsequently improve your mental health.

Practice Self-Care

Practicing self-care is another essential aspect of building self-esteem. Self-care involves taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, engaging in regular physical activity, and spending time doing activities that you enjoy.

Self-care also means setting boundaries and saying no to things that are not in line with your values or priorities. It means being kind to yourself and treating yourself with compassion and respect.

Practice Self-Compassion

One of the most important ways to build self-esteem is to practice self-compassion. This means treating yourself with kindness, empathy, and understanding, just as you would treat a close friend. It involves acknowledging your own struggles and challenges without judgment or criticism.

Self-compassion can help you develop a more positive relationship with yourself and cultivate a sense of self-worth. Try to speak to yourself in a gentle and supportive manner, and try to focus on your strengths and accomplishments rather than your flaws and mistakes.

Set Realistic Goals

Setting realistic goals is another important aspect of building self-esteem. Setting goals that are too high or unrealistic can lead to feelings of failure and inadequacy. On the other hand, setting achievable goals can help boost your confidence and provide a sense of accomplishment.

When setting goals, it is important to make them specific, measurable, and time-bound. Break them down into smaller, achievable steps and track your progress along the way. Celebrate your successes and learn from your setbacks, but always remember that setbacks are a normal part of the process.

Challenge Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk can be a major barrier to building self-esteem. It is the voice inside your head that tells you that you are not good enough or that you will fail. This voice can be especially loud when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

To challenge negative self-talk, it is important to become aware of your inner dialogue and the negative thoughts that are holding you back. When you notice these thoughts, try to replace them with more positive and supportive statements. For example, instead of saying “I can’t do this,” try saying “I am capable and strong.”

Surround Yourself with Positive People

The people we surround ourselves with can have a big impact on our self-esteem. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people can help boost your confidence and make you feel valued and appreciated.

Seek out friends and family members who are supportive and encouraging. Joining a support group or taking part in community activities can also be a great way to connect with like-minded individuals and build a sense of belonging.

Focus on Your Strengths

Focusing on your strengths is another important way to build self-esteem. Rather than focusing on your weaknesses and flaws, try to identify and celebrate your strengths and talents.

Take some time to reflect on your accomplishments and the things that you are proud of. Write them down and refer to them when you need a boost of confidence or motivation. Remember that everyone has strengths and talents, and it is important to recognize and celebrate them.


If, despite your efforts, you still struggle with low self-esteem, it is important to seek professional help. A Therapist can help you identify the underlying causes of your low self-esteem and provide you with tools and strategies to improve your self-worth.

Suffering from Depression or Anxiety?

You are one step away from getting back on track.


Talk With a Therapist Today!

Kingsway Counselling is home to a group of like-minded licensed Therapists that offer both in-person and virtual sessions. 


Want to get our blog posts hand delivered to your inbox? Sign up for our newsletter full of tips and exclusive insights into retreats, specials and more.

Follow Us

Related Posts

Embracing Spring and Summer for Positive Mental Wellbeing

Embracing Spring and Summer for Positive Mental Wellbeing

Transitioning from the chilly embrace of winter to the warmth and vibrancy of spring and summer in Saint John, New Brunswick brings about a tangible sense of renewal. Beyond the obvious changes in nature, these seasons inspire us to adopt habits that enhance our...

Navigating New Year’s Expectations

Navigating New Year’s Expectations

Managing your Mental Health As a new year unfolds, many of us find ourselves setting resolutions, goals, and expectations for the year ahead. While the excitement, optimism and enthusiasm associated with a fresh start can be invigorating, it is important to recognize...

The Green Prescription: How Nature Nurtures Well-Being

The Green Prescription: How Nature Nurtures Well-Being

The Green Prescription: How Nature Nurtures Well-Being In today's technology-driven and fast-paced world, many of us find ourselves spending a significant amount of time indoors, whether at work, school, or home. However, we often underestimate the impact that the...

Grief Counselling

Grief Counselling

Grief is a natural response to loss, and it can be an overwhelming and complicated experience for many people to navigate. Grief counselling is a type of therapy that helps individuals process and cope with the effects of loss, whether it be psychological, physical,...

Saint John Counselling

Saint John Counselling

The Stigma around Mental Health The stigma surrounding mental health is a prevalent issue in many communities around the world and that doesn’t exclude our community here in  Saint John, New Brunswick. It is a barrier that prevents individuals from seeking help for...